A Finite Resource
We all have the right to recognize our missteps, without surrendering our self-respect. We can refuse to live in a state of regret, and insist on moving ourselves forward. It's only fair that we give ourselves the permission to stand firmly where "sorry" doesn't always have to happen, but understanding and growth will flourish.
If we want to play the victim, the universe will gladly oblige our request. In the end, perspective is everything.
While there will always be external forces that exist around us, it is our own choice to perceive them as being for or against us. Making a habit of seeing opposition as an opportunity to challenge ourselves gives us the power to transform. When external forces are aimed negatively in our direction, it is our choice to allow our strength and sight to be weakened. We invite or decline the presence of destructive forces into our lives. Certain circumstances cannot be controlled, but we always have a choice to allow a circumstance to continue, or to walk away.
It is ok to say, "There will be no more of this towards me."
It is ok to say, "I am letting go, for my own health and happiness."
Everything may happen for a reason, but it's rarely for the reasons you've imagined.
Those that are not in alignment with our purpose still have a place in our story. They are present in our lives only to shake us from our sleep. To guide us back to the path we were taking before our minds became clouded by fear, envy, shame, or anger. To remind us that expectations are often, whenever demanded, not met by the same standards we envision. The universe has a way of reminding us that we are not in control of it. We are only in control of ourselves.
You are a perishable item, with a limited time, occupying a humble amount of space. Choose either to remain mindful and present or you will struggle with the past and future distortions of analyzing a singular existence.