Why does everyone want to be Ryan Gosling?

You have to wonder if James Marsden kept a notebook too. It's a better story, and if I were him, I would most certainly write it down. It would be all about a war hero who came back in a full body cast, only to miraculously recover. Who fell in love with a girl, showing her a world better than her ex ever did. But this girl runs away months before the wedding to cheat with said ex. And poor James knew all he could do was let her go. I would read the hell out of that notebook. I don't know about y'all, but I respect James Marsden more than Ryan Gosling. A man who cuts his losses and leaves, triumphantly not writing to his ex everyday afterwards. I need so desperately to be James Marsden after I've been Ryan Gosling for far too long.