when you love.

When you love someone, you don’t judge them—

judgment doesn’t even come to mind;

rather sadness, grief and a desperation to help.

When you love someone, you don’t cut them out of your life;

instead you make a safe boundary and pray for them—

and send them all the healing energy you can create in silence.

When you love someone, you don’t give them advice,

and then develop resentments when they don't take it;

rather you listen to their needs and stay available to fill them.

When you love someone, you don’t say I love you,

instead you show them your love,

with your kindness,

with your words,

with your actions,

with your presence,

and with your thoughts.

When you love someone,

you show love for yourself.