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I was on the phone today with a really lovely client, I had fun talking with him. He had so many stories to tell. He’s an old chap, but his wife has dementia. He gave me an advise which I know I’ll take to heart. I don’t know what he looks like, or what he’s like, but he sounds like a blessing and I know they lived a good life. I would like to share it will you all as I felt how he truly loved his wife, and how important it is to treasure every second you have with your loved ones because we never know when they would lose their memory and not remember you at all. My heart broke for this wonderful man, but I felt like he was still contented with how they are now and he sounds happy.

This is not the exact verbatim, but here’s what he said:

“When you marry, what you miss most when you’re old and not together anymore, is hearing the little things. Say, you’re having a cup of tea with your wife, it’s a normal routine for both of you but once it’s not, it’s like a big hole in your heart, and you wish she was there again with you, creating memories and doing the same routine. We’ve been together for 57 years and she’s been my companion for everything, and when I visited her the other day, she kissed me on the cheek and hugged me tight - which she hasn’t done for a long time now. She still gives me the tingles, you know? Because now, when you tell her something, she will forget it 10 mins later. So I realized, you have to put more effort into your thoughts and what you’re actually doing. When you get to stage about starting to worry about a matter, the only thing that matters is now. Enjoy that cup of tea you’re having, enjoy the small talks, enjoy the way she smiled at you. You will need it when you grow older, when memories are all you have. We’re not together, but I still hear her in my heart. We’re still together by heart.”