Reality is Perception; Stupid is Reality believing our Perceptions

Stupid is telling a five-year-old she is lying when she said she didn’t remember being told about lying and spanking her.

Stupid is telling a seven-year-old her two-year-old brother wouldn’t have died if she prayed.

Stupid is a seven-year-old feeling guilty for playing when her brother was in the hospital and dying.

Stupid is telling a seven-year-old she didn’t miss her two-year-old brother because she didn’t let him play with her toys when he was alive.

Stupid is asking for an opinion and telling the person who gave her opinion she’s wrong.

Stupid is telling a child she would be so pretty if only she just lost some weight.

Stupid is telling a child at all stages, she isn’t good enough.

Stupid is telling a sibling, why can’t you be more like your sister?

Stupid is an authority figure saying he would never hurt an eleven-year-old after he molested her.

Stupid is being told no one can know about what happened to a daughter because it would destroy the family.

Stupid is a school counselor advising an aspiring nurse she shouldn’t go to college because it would be a waste of money.

Stupid is a mother telling her daughter she didn’t need to go to college to be a someone.

Stupid is telling a sad daughter, getting married would make her happy.

Stupid is a teenager being pushed into a relationship because someone thought she would be a good fit for a stranger.

Stupid is accepting a marriage proposal because the seventeen-year-old thought she would never get another chance, and marriage would make her happy.

Stupid is not listening to warning bells when a fiancé quit a job because it wasn’t enough money.

Stupid is working all night, going to school, keeping up household chores, helping a fiance work while he started and quit 3 different sales jobs in six months so he could be successful before they got married.

Stupid is going through with a wedding a week after she graduates from hight school and her fiance gets laid off of the fourth job he had in six months.

Stupid is going on a honeymoon anyway when neither had jobs or savings.

Stupid is letting a new husband decide it would be best to go visit his grandmother while on their honeymoon.

Stupid is moving twenty-one times in eight years of marriage.

Stupid is believing the reason your husband had to quit his job is that the boss was stupid and against him … every year for the first six years.

Stupid is being told by her husband he didn’t want her to come home after sending her away for two months, defy him and pack to go anyway.

Stupid is discounting the importance of information she received that her husband molested a sister when she was ten, then slept with that same sister when she was sixteen.

Stupid is believing a husband who insists on the reason he had an affair was her fault.

Stupid is going to a friend of a brother to get counseling on sexual issues because she couldn’t satisfy her husband and being sexually exploited.

Stupid is thinking her husband would change.

Stupid is telling her husband who was “infatuated” with another woman, they either needed to get counseling for their marriage or divorce if he didn’t want to be married.

Stupid is using the same attorney because her husband didn’t want to fight, and making promises but refusing to put it in the divorce decree because he didn’t want to be legally bound.

Stupid is believing her lying husband would follow through on all that he promised.

Stupid is believing that her life was over at twenty-five, and the only way her daughters would survive her as a mother was to get them into therapy.

Stupid is to think that we cannot escape our family.

Stupid is to think we are what we are and there is no hope for change.

Stupid is believing there is no hope for a way out of despair except for suicide.

Stupid is believing no one cares and we are all alone in our pain.

Stupid is not taking the next step and the next step until we finally see the sun.

Stupid is giving up on ourselves and our worth.

Stupid is letting our past, the bad things that happened to us and those who hurt us dictate how we define ourselves.

Stupid is sweating the small stuff, obsessing on the bad stuff and ignoring the good in life and of others, and forgetting we have a Heavenly Father who walks with us through the good and the bad.