An Asexual’s Rant

Sometimes I wonder how other asexuals feel about attraction. If it's possible to live in this world without being asked smash or pass on random strangers (when that was still popular). If it's possible to live without being asked if you find random stranger xyz cute, or hot, or attractive. If other asexuals are also are confused about what to reply. At least until you find ways to make sense of people's looks.

"He has a nice jawline."

"She's got a great body."

"I prefer guys that are cute, not handsome."

Until you can judge people based on how they look and determine if you could possibly consider dating them. I've been taught that instead of learning about the person, first think about sex. First consider if you feel the blasted "spark." A spark that means something more than being easy to talk to and laugh with. A spark that you can't confuse with friendship, no matter how hard you try.

Maybe I'm naive, but that's what I've learned. That most people don't know the word "asexual" or understand that there's a difference between being open to sex and being sexually attracted to other people. Unless, perhaps, they've searched for it before. Just to be sure, just to be completely sure, that it does not apply to them.