Falling on deaf ears

Talking to David is like an exercise of having your messages land only 70% of the time. It's no wonder as I imagine, his reputation is at risk; or rather the risk was already experienced. A leader that asks "WHO WILL FOLLOW ME?" and has no one following, is not because he failed on sound reasons nor failed in good intentions; he failed, because he failed to ask the one thing that moves people -- trust.

David stresses to me his frustration on how *his* urgency that he wants his siblings to follow him to this new land, how he came here first so that he can be ready to support them -- and yet, at a time when masses of people from home are leaving; none of the siblings came.

I didn't understand back then. But after being on the receiving end of his deaf ears; his willingness to participate what I see as a silent bystander; his blindness to my yells of frustration -- his inability to admit fault, his failings. I imagine this is what his siblings saw, experienced -- maybe not all to the same degree; but being burned in that way; to felt betrayed; this is something that's hard to salvage; even if complete good intentions is the underlying foundation. He failed to consider the most important element in decision making - each person involved. Literally everyone. Women, Children, Men.