No one makes perfect choices.
That sums it up. I'm a new parent and constantly fear doing saying or just acting in a way that will hurt my daughter, now or in the future.
But it's inevitable. It follows the uncertainty principal. The more I know about the situation, the less I ultimately know about the result, just because my behavior is focused on the now. It goes the other way too, the more I'm focused on the future, the less involved I become in immediate needs. No one grows up without problems or scars, there is no way to avoid it. I just hope I will do better for my baby, and leave her better off.