Self Respect

It can be easy to lose respect for self. The reasons can be broad. The toxic process can sneak up on you; still you are the only one who can truly validate yourself. As overwhelming as it may be to actually have this drawn to our attention, stumbling upon the fact that we may lack self-respect is the first step to being well.“Give the demon a name and it will show its face.”Building stronger boundaries Following the realization of the respect we lack for “self”, comes the declaration of stronger boundaries. Boundaries consist of a standard of respect one has towards self, that affects what one will, and will not do, or accept around them, and the audacity to enforce said boundaries. This can range from what we’re willing to eat; to the people we choose to entertain. Write down the things you are and are not willing to compromise your growth, wellness, or state of mind for. Make the list very clear to yourself. Take a mental note of how, and to whom you bend these rules throughout the day. Consistently set and communicate these boundaries. Toxic people in our lives will naturally distance themselves because they are no longer able to control and use us. These boundaries are rooted in the value we regard in ourselves. As these boundaries form and solidify, we become more of ourselves, and naturally begin to value ourselves more. Positivity and growth will gravitate towards us, mainly because we, over-time, built a fortress around us. The exclusivity of the fortress inherently amplifies our value. As our inherent value appreciates, due to the fortress also allowing ourselves head-space and room to grow; we are sought out, by sought after people, who hold similar boundaries, because the connection could potentially appreciate their own value.

From a nutritional perspective, respect yourself enough to eat mindfully with regard to what makes you feel good. (Emotionally balanced, full of life, satisfied palette.) Maintain boundaries around your standards, taking foods that do not make you feel good (sick, sluggish, angst, displeasing to your palette) in strict moderation or out of your life, all together, depending on how strong your boundaries are.

Personally, I regard people and habits the same.