Lowering the Bar of Expectations

When we see how amazing someone is, yet they fail to see their own greatness we often try to build them up. We lovingly tell them all the extraordinary things we know they can achieve in hopes that they will believe us.

Only, I think this maybe where we go wrong to some decree.

That’s because we’ve built such high expectations for this person, that it now becomes, in their mind, an unrealistic expectation. Thus creating a greater fear of failure and more pressure on that person.

Of course I’m not saying that we shouldn’t encourage people to aim high. I just think it is more beneficial that when you do, that it’s a reasonable goal that they feel can meet.

This reduces the pressure or fear of failure and becomes something actually obtainable to them in their mind.

By lowering the bar of expectations the goal can be met much quicker without instilling more fear. And the sense of accomplishment that’s rewarded, raises the expectations they have for themselves, which in turn encourages them to aim even higher with their next goal.

Just my thought anyway, but what do I know?