It is not your job to make other people happy.

This took me forever to learn, and honestly, I forget it sometimes.

I always feel the need to make every person in my life happy, and when that doesn’t happen, I feel like I betrayed them.

No one has the power to make another person feel certain emotions, and as hard as I try, there is no way to make even myself happy all the time, let alone the rest of the world.

Even when I am able to make some of the people around me happy, somebody else will get mad because I’m not helping him out.

After that it is just a whirlwind of emotions from everyone around me and I somehow always manage to find myself in the middle of it.

Then I beat myself up because “I didn’t do a good enough job”.

I tell myself that I should have tried harder, communicated better.

But that isn’t the problem.

I am not the problem.

The world is not perfect and if someone is sad, it isn’t your fualt.

Even if you had a part in it, it isn’t your fault if someone is offended or hurt, because those emotions were their decision.

And it is their job to decide to be happy again.

Sure, you can help.

Give him a coffee.

Wrap her in a hug.

But none of those things will have a lasting effect if they don’t want to choose to be happy.

So, it is not your job to make other people happy.

Yes, you can help, but if they are sad, don’t put the blame on yourself.

And choose to be happy.

Who knows, maybe you will be helping someone else out by choosing to be happy so they don’t feel like they have to make you happy.