Love is a Drug
Science, with it's merciless and unerring eye, has proved conclusively what the Devious Manipulators of History; salesmen and politicians, cult leaders and your mom, have always know; that our feelings (with a small "f") are Fleeting and Chemically Induced. Indulging in these feelings, lika a child, is routinely portrayed as "romantic".
Oxytocin, the "bonding hormone" (which breast milk is full of) has led to uncountable crimes against humanity; all under the Same Heading "Them or Us".
"Us" being your mommy, and by extension, mommy's religious delusions, atavistic fears, learned prejudices, and selfish motivations.
Self Reliance, the birthright of every animal, is too often undermined, if not crippled entirely, by Chemical Dependence; in the form of addictive need for some Other's approval; blind loyalty.
Some people replace mommy with a wife, who was raised by, and Trained to Be by, an emotional terrorist; upon who's supposed (conditional) "love" they depend for their fraudulent sense of self worth and delusions of adequacy.
Others subcede themselves to Religious "beliefs" promising unwon success, and undeserved, automatic, Assumed Acceptance. Belonging
The Need to Be Loved, not To Love, is a Hole in your Soul- where your Heart Should Be; as romanticized in Extreme's second biggest hit; the 80's power ballad "Hole Hearted".
It is as Bryan Ferry subsequently sang, in Roxy Music's biggest hit: "Love is the Drug (for Me)".