the role of the mediator

i feel like i've made myself to be a very neutral person, and as a result of that all sorts of people confide in me for their problems .i don't particularly have a problem with people confiding in me, in fact i think its quite nice to know that my friends trust me enough to tell me about themselves on a deeper level, but i don't believe i'm being confided in as a friend at the moment. i am being confided in as a mere listener who's sole job is to agree with whoever i'm talking to. i think i originally made myself like this as a mechanism to get people to like me more, but now i've found myself in a position where i'm a mediator for people who cant be mature enough to have a conversation as adults with each other. i find this very petty and prideful of both of them. I think if only they talked to each other then all this would be resolved and i wouldn't have to be a mediator. the thing about being a mediator is that your opinion isn't usually what people want to hear. the mediator tells people what they want to hear, and that's why both sides of the dispute confide in whoever the mediator is. nobody wants to hear the mediator's thoughts and suggestions, they want to hear them echo back their opinion and agree with them to feel validation, to feel as though their opinion isn't just utter nonsense. that's why people confide in them. because she is the people pleaser, and they are the people using said people pleaser to make up for their own lack of sense of self. that's what i've concluded from this situation. maybe i should be someone who restricts themselves more so that i'm not used as a tool for people to validate themselves. though now that i think about it, the part of me that's so neutral to everything must have been made like this on purpose simply for the sake of being useful to others around me. maybe i wanted this, maybe i wanted to be a person who would want others to like for purposes as shallow as that. but as i change and grow as a person i realize that maybe simple validation for the sake of upping my own self esteem isn't worth changing myself over. i've rambled quite a bit now, so i think ill stop here.