BANG MAID
I was reading a post where this woman was asking for advice about moving in with her boyfriend. The stated reason that she is tempted to accept the offer is because this guy lives in an upscale neighborhood in an upscale house. Although she doesn't state this explicitly, the implication is the guy must be successful to have the house he does in the place he does.
Most of the advice she receives is that she should not move in with this guy. One of the reasons stated for this is because the person giving the advice thinks that the guy just wants a bang maid. The term strikes me as amusing for some reason I can't quite put my finger on at the moment. The "maid" part of the term refers to domestic chores and the implication is that if she moves in with him, he will expect her to do the cooking and cleaning and laundry. The commenter said that would be fine if she has any ownership of the property but since she doesn't, the idea is that she would be taken advantage of by providing free labor. The "bang" part refers to access to sex. The guy wants to have unlimited access to having sex with her and that's the kind of thing you should only provide if you are getting something back for it. The implication here is that sex is a commodity that shouldn't be just given away, it should be sold. So, the general consensus of the people providing advice to this woman is that if she moves in, she will just be allowing herself to be exploited.
So, here's the thing, relationships are transactional and all the advice that this woman got was based in transactional thinking. None of them asked this woman if she loved this guy or if she even liked him because to them, that information is irrelevant. You enter a relationship to benefit you and if it doesn't benefit you, don't enter into it. It's that simple.
The more I understand how relationships work, the more I realize that love has nothing to do with it. What matters is am I getting what I need and am I paying too much for it. It's not personal, it's just business and anybody who forgets that will more than likely get their feelings hurt.