The Table

Another term I have come across in my meandering through what has become of gender relations is the term "The table". This is usually in the form of a question like "What do you bring to the table?" and it is usually men who ask this question. Women rarely ask this question because it is common knowledge that men are supposed to bring time/attention and resources to the table.

There are two common responses to this question, one response is "I bring myself" and the other is "I am the table". Any women who says that she is the table, doesn't know what the table is. The table is the NEGOTIATING table. Each person brings something of value and exchanges it. A person cannot be the table. Any man who asks a woman what she brings to the table wants to know what that value is. Any woman who says she brings herself, thinks that the fact that she is even engaging with a guy is value enough and nothing else should be required to get that guys resources, time and attention.

Women hate men who ask this question for a couple of reasons, the first reason is because most men are not allowed to have standards. Unless you are one of the few men in high demand, you should just be happy with whatever you can get. You should be a beggar that cannot be choosey and if you are choosey, you are like a homeless person who feels entitled to something they don't deserve. The second reason women hate this question is because you should already notice what that woman brings to the table, which is herself and you should already be able to tell what an amazing person she is.

Women will say that any guy who asks this question is a red flag (another term I hear a lot) because that guy looks at relationships as transactional and that's bad. The reason it's bad is because he expects something in return for his time/attention and resources. I agree that this is a red flag but for a different reason. Any guy that cannot tell what a woman brings to the table should not be trying to date. If she doesn't bring anything to the table, you should be able to figure that out without having to ask her.

You might be wondering what love has to do with any of this and the answer is nothing. The more I realize that love has nothing to do with mating the more I realize I don't want to mate. So, what do you bring to the table anyway? Just wondering.