He loved me with a fine, fierce love

he put me on a pedestal, bought me fine clothes, jewellery

fed me rich foods, fancy meals,

gave me perfumes that suggested strange things.

He introduced me to his family and friends, saying “ meet my girlfriend” as if I had no name.

and all the time I could feel a spiders web weaving me into his world.

One fine morning I stared out the the window of my gilded cage and saw a spider

she caught a little jeweled beetle, wrapped him in silk and stashed him in the corner of her web, then went back to polishing her perfect web.

And I knew

I took off my finery, left the golden chains on the coffee table, took only what I came with.

The old crow who lived in the oak tree was the only one who saw me go,

as I stepped over the stile, she cawed, I think she said ‘good luck’.

Later I met someone else, he didn’t buy clothes for me or chain me with gold.

But he tied my heart to his with an ever expanding silver thread.

If I needed him, he was there, if I need space, he brought me a train ticket.

I afforded him the same dignity

Together or apart

we are one

Love is not possesion,

if you are choked or chocked then that isn’t love.

Love is the security that knows, what ever happens you will be there for each other.

It truly depends on the relationship. If you have ever been "in love," you know there is no such thing. Love does not happen at first sight. Not romantically at least. The flow of chemicals that cause you to be attracted to somebody does not start being made the second you lay eyes on them. It just does not happen. I will say the desire to die in somebody's place does happen, but not after a week. A month. Generally, it will take closer to a year for this to develop. They (the couple) can be interested but again, they won't be falling head over heels.

Now, to answer the question, it depends on the time you have been together, and what kind of person you are. If the distance is an issue with you, then it can sometimes feel suffocating, especially when your contact is limited, like with this pandemic. If you are okay with that, but your s/o is having issues, then that can also emulate that "choking" feeling.

You aren't going to die over the distance between you and a loved one. It may feel like it, but you will be fine. Not to be blunt, but just suck it up. If you "tough" it out it makes it a lot easier down the road, than to go see them every weekend and stop contact. I'm speaking from experience.