Rant

I'm not skinny.  I really wish I was.  I never have been, actually.  My entire life has been spent as the chubby kid, the husky girl, the thick one.  I love how people assume that I eat too much, or I eat a lot of sweets, or that I don't exercise.  They assume these things without ever knowing me because I am not skinny.  That's bullshit.

I actually walk to and from work, and when I get home I take my dogs for a walk.  I also do the gym twice a week, to get a good cardio workout.  I cannot stand sweets or junk food.  My food heaven?  It would be some deliciously steamed asparagus.  I would rather have a salad than pasta.  Despite this, and my carefully controlled diet, I'm still heavy.  

I had to hear it from my own father growing up.  He loved to point out I was getting heavy, or fat, to me.  My brother was especially rude about it.  He delighted in the mental anguish his teasing caused.  My home was not a safe place for the fat girl.  No, she was mocked more brutally there than she was ever mocked at school.  I never knew I had a medical condition until I was in my late thirties.  My father refused to entertain the notion that it could be caused by anything other than laziness and gluttony, so he never had any real tests run.  Fat people are fat because they lack self-control, at least in HIS world.  That is why thirty years went by before I found out I had a genuine medical condition.

PCOS - Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome - and weight gain was only one of the symptoms and problems.  This condition also put me at great risk of heart disease, diabetes, and other serious health complications.  It raged unchecked in my body for thirty years!  We are now dealing with it, and the damage it has done to other systems of my body in the meantime.  I am actually even losing weight.  Not fast, but I celebrate EVERY pound that comes off with another shot of nice, crisp water! 

When you see a person that is heavy, don't just assume that they are also slobs, lazy, and lacking of any self-control or respect.  You have NO idea the struggle they might be dealing with, or how deeply hurtful that struggle has been. This actually goes for when you see thin people, too.  There are a host of medical conditions and medications that can cause, or prevent, weight gain.  

Better idea.  Why don't you take the time to get to know the person, the mind and soul, and then decide if you like them?  Wrapping is superficial anyway.