SHAKE IT OFF

Take a good long look at yourself in the mirror and before judging the pimple on your face, the darkness of your lips, the size of your eyes, the texture of your hair, the marks on your skin, too much or too little breasts, your tummy, skinny or too thick thighs, no butt etc. I could go on and on, simply look at yourself in the mirror and smile, while you’re smiling think about all the positive and good things in your life, everything that is good think about it and smile a little more, appreciate what you’ve been blessed with. It will become easier to do as you practice it more and more. I say look into a mirror, because you don’t want to associate the way you feel with who you are, so look at yourself and your reflection will remind you. If you do not like what you see and can change it, know that you hold the power to do so.

We spend too much time criticizing ourselves and others, we may plaster on a smile and create a strong woman parade to the world but sometimes on the inside we feel rotten, it may not surface everyday but when it comes we get funky and difficult to deal with, we lash out in many ways. At times we are nasty to others at work, especially to other women who look like they have it all together. Then there are times we feel as though we need a man to make us feel better, which by the way is far from what we need. The truth however is that we need to love ourselves first, inside and out, embracing and loving who we are without needing anyone to tell us they love us, or that we look good. When we hear it, it should be the icing on the cake, not the flour to make the cake.

Know that it will take one step at a time then one day at a time to become that empowered woman. When you get to the place of reformation, where you feel better and stronger within yourself, a bad day will be coming, because our lives aren’t fairy-tales things change and unfortunate things do happen, remember though, that no situation remains the same and we must whether the storm and strengthen ourselves but not by making others feel awful. When that day or moment comes, take a step back and search yourself, check your attitude and shake it off.

Be your own kind of beautiful and celebrate being a woman!