Say Goodbye
In the beginning
it's always great.
It's different this time.
This one's all butterflies,
stargazing, and late-night
deep emotional conversations.
Then it's one angry outburst,
but it's an isolated incident!
He's really sorry, and swears
it'll never happen again.
"I just love you so much and
I can't imagine losing you."
He's damaged,
but he's working on himself!
He has trust issues,
but he's just looking
for a good therapist.
He's going through
my phone and reading
texts from months before
we even met eachother.
But it's just to help
calm his anxiety.
I know when to get out
of a toxic situation.
Hes showing up at my
house at 3 in the a.m.
He was listening to my
phone call from outside
my open window.
Another even angrier,
more dramatic outburst.
Two days later, there's another.
Maybe I need to set some
very firm clear boundaries.
"Can we talk?"
This is not okay,
I have a right to privacy.
Well what're you hiding?
I'm like this because you
don't know how to communicate.
Well sorry I can't be like
your ex that you still love.
This has already gone too far.
I let too much slide,
for my mental healths sake,
I can't do this anymore.
We need to go our seperate ways.
Why am I being punished?
If you loved me you wouldn't
do this to me, to us!
I thought you cared about me?
You are my true soulmate,
I'll never love anyone ever again!
Maybe I'd be better off dead!
I won't give in,
I won't give in.
Stand your ground,
you've been through
this all before,
you know how
this story goes.
He's not going to change,
and it's not my fault.
His reactions are not
my responsibility,
but my own actions are,
my mental well-being is.
Say Goodbye.
...
To an inexperienced empath,
it is their fault,
what they said, or did,
the actions they took,
the feelings they felt-
this is why this person is upset,
so they feel obligated to fix it.
Narcissists will exploit a kind heart.
They will lie, twist things you say,
play the victim, guilt trip you,
threaten their own or your safety.
They work in patterns,
if you catch it early on
you will save yourself
so much mental anguish.
Don't ignore the signs,
if there are red flags,
do not hesitate to leave.
You shouldn't have to
explain or justify their actions.
You're only responsibility is yourself.